Wikipedia has an excellent definition of paraphilia (below). In my words, a paraphilia is a sexual attraction to something you aren't supposed to be attracted to. And the problem is when the person pretty much needs the paraphilia for sexual gratification.

The point of this website is not to remove the attraction. (There are possible ways of doing this -- email The goal is to establish an attraction to something else, so the person is not dependent on the paraphilia for sexual gratification.

There are other definitions of paraphilia, and they basically suck. Wikipedia has a definition constructed from the American Journal of Psychiatry: Paraphilias are recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors generally involving: (a) nonhuman objects, (b) the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner, or (c) children, or (d) nonconsenting persons.

Humiliation is obviously a part of domination/submission. Domination and submission can become paraphilias -- anything can become a paraphilia. But usually they are built on some underlying tendency. So, oddly enough, the desire for humiliation is probably not a classically conditioned attraction. The desire to humiliate someone is either not sexual or arises out of sadism, which is also unlikly to be a classically conditioned attractio

Yes, the paraphilia can be to nonhuman objects, like panties. But it can be to human objects (the female foot) or even to humans (such as the paraplegiac fetish).

Yes, the paraphilia can be to children. That is maybe the worst paraphilia. But the paraphilia can be to anything. I have no knowledge of the attraction to have sex with nonconsenting persons except that typically this urge is described as aggression, not sexual.

From Wikipedia: Paraphilia is a biomedical term used to describe sexual arousal to objects, situations, or individuals that are not part of normative stimulation and that may cause distress or serious problems for the paraphiliac or persons associated with him or her. A paraphilia is a condition involving sex fetishes where a person's sexual arousal and gratification depend on fantasizing about, and engaging in, sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme. The term was coined by Wilhelm Stekel in the 1920s and popularized by John Money in the 1960s, who described paraphilia as "a sexuoerotic embellishment of, or alternative to the official, ideological norm."

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